That's Not My Brassiere

As I prematurely pulled the pile of ALL BLACK laundry from the drier (I like to time certain parts: jeans - 5 minutes; newer black shirts - about 7 to 10 minutes; old black stuff - all the way to 50 minutes) my hands grabbed onto something strange.

I tossed the other items aside and pulled out this new texture: a much-too-big-for-me bra. And for that split mini moment my imagination flashed through how different my life would be if that much-too-big-for-me bra really did belong to me because I had that much to mold and hold. Bobbi with big boobs: it as a nice ring to it, but would have likely set me on a different course of cleavage and God knows what else.

I'll stick with my simple physique, mostly because I have to, and leave that lovely piece of lingerie for whoever did laundry in our house this weekend.

Please, Take a Peek

My friend Leah, who lives in Vancouver, has started a beautiful art/photo/life blog with a buddy who is doing aid work in Burundi.

Get your virtual butt there.

Here's a sample of its dazzling work.

Mount Pleasant

I'm sure I post about the same things over and over, but I can't seem to help myself. Tonight . . . I'm thinking about my neighborhood.

I went out early yesterday morning to walk less than a block to vote at Grace Memorial United Church. It's so close that even I can almost throw something at it from my third floor bedroom window and hit it. Not that I would, but I almost could.

As I walked down the ramp into the fellowship hall I noticed that the door had been pushed back against someone's overnight squatting gear. There was an empty shampoo bottle, a jacket, and a yellow blanket. I was a bit surprised that the voting day volunteers hadn't moved it, but then again, this is Vancouver East and that sight is not uncommon.

This morning was another early morning as I raced out with the rising sun to make my way to a First Aid course. I drove down my street and saw a woman who had been out all night. She was dressed to impress, cheaply. She looked so tired, quite at home behind the laundromat, and numb to the cold. Though, I'm sure she wasn't. We all feel cold, right?

Tonight as I tried to walk a bit of my dinner and wine off I crossed paths with a police operation complete with three staked out cars, cops on foot, and a focused sniffer dog in search of someone in some dark hiding spot.

So what makes a pretty good girl like me feel quite at home in all of this mess? Mostly, I don't really know. I just know that the broken pieces I see around me look a bit like the broken pieces I name within me.

There is loneliness, curled up in a church's dark doorway.

There is desperation, selling herself on the busy Vancouver Street.

There is heartbreak, hiding in the bushes trying not to get caught.

There is life. And hovering over all of it, though most certainly not fully realized, is a deep and promised hope.

Giving Thanks, Cutting the Crap

For Thanksgiving I am making an "I want" list.

I want to buy less.
I want to wear things until they fray.
I want to clean out my closet and give stuff away.
I want to eat what is in season.
I want to meet more farmers.
I want to run and bike in the cold.
I want to be neighborly.
I want hospitality.
I want to share.
I want to write.
I want to listen.
I want to worry less.
I want to laugh more.
I want to breathe deeply.
I want to be silly.
I want to be good.
I want to pray.
I want to be generous.
I want to rest.

My Friend, Music

This week I've enjoyed some great live music. I finally saw Ron Sexsmith at the Chan Centre with my dear friend Nerida. I've been waiting years for this.

While taking in Ron's music I was reminded that I love a good songwriter who can sing other people's stories, as well as his own. It's that element of music that reaches into some of our broken places, cuddles up beside those painful bits, and soothes them with their presence. In this company one is a little less alone then she or he was before the song started 2 minutes before.

Here's one of Ron Sexsmith's songs that names the struggle and holds out hope that it will get brighter still. Be sure to listen for the little treat at the end.

Vancouver Farmers Market

I have been going to the Trout Lake Farmers' Market all summer. I have hardly missed a Saturday morning. The dream of the market starts setting in midweek. By Friday night I go to bed with a little grin on my face knowing that the next morning I will get on my bike, ride down the hill to the market, meet up with a friend or two, fill up my pannier with produce, eat a fresh crepe, and bike a bit of harvest back up the hill to my house.

This week the farmers market encouraged me to try a couple new recipes. I made potato kale chowder for dinner and carrot-walnut muffins to snack on in the week ahead.

I love fall for it's changing leaves, long sleeved black t-shirts, plentiful harvest, and sunny September mornings at the market.

A Girl on Her Bike in the Fall

I've started a new job!

This requires a whole new pile of words/phrases. Here I go:

bike to work.
fresh fall air.
people on their bikes aren't always nice -- I wonder why we can't all just be friends.
lovely new church people.
like Jan, Tim, Jodi, Jack.
the sparkle of anticipation.
health and hope.
kind faces.
temporary work spaces.
welcome.

A Good State

Last week my sister and I took a road trip. We showed up in beautiful bits of Oregon coastal scenery and chased down good food and drink. We took turns driving my Corolla with it's reliable new tires, we laughed through two days visiting friends Kim and Case in Portland, and we ate well.

Here are some pictures of things I got excited about:

1. Food/Drink.







2. Whales.



3. Books.



4. Being a sister.







5. Climbing a big hill.

Some Summer Days

I am not working right now. It's nice, sometimes a bit dull, but of total restoration importance. After finishing my old job just 22 days ago, I am spending my time . . .

breathing.
sifting.
sorting.
mixing.
running.
reading.
hoping.
biking.
listening.
visiting.

Focusing on these words, saying these words, and living these words helps when I get restless or my Grandma Joan energy wants to keep me busy during most moments of the day.

It's also been fun to spend time with some people I love who love me too.


My family in Alberta.


Chris and Sarah Harder in Kamloops.
We ate delicious dinners together last week in their garden.


Sarah and I at some pretty lake, BC.


Old and new Regent friends: Ali and Nerida.

A Party and A Poem

I had a party this weekend to thank the people who have been paramount friends to me while I've been transitioning, crying, laughing, panicking, saying goodbye, and settling into what the next hellos might look like.

I called this gathering the HOLYSHITiMADEIT party. Please take no offense. I named it with great intention. A few weeks ago I was running down the hill towards Trout Lake (LOVE running down hills) and I was feeling angry and saying bad words in my head. But then the word "shit" took on a new life as I placed it right beside the word "holy" in my imagination.

Now, it may seem offensive and possibly blasphemous to let a word so divine make friends with a word so dirty. Lately though, these two words have become my favourite poem. They are reminding me that really heart breaking things can and do happen all the time. But they are not beyond the reach of a God who makes beautiful things out of really, really crappy things. This is my redemption poem.

These are my party pictures:


It was hot. We took the party to the street.


My friend Nerida and I.


Peekaboo Calgary Greg, Paul I-love-my-beers, Matt from Mission and me.


The always beautiful Kristi.


Some of my fav Willingdon peeps, Lauren and Andy.
The pose? Ummm . . . awkward.


My dear friend Angie and some chicken enchilada leftovers.

Even Under Its Weight, We Smile

Today was the "Farewell to Bobbi" at Willingdon Church. I've served there for four and a half years and it was quite sad to say these goodbyes. I must say, though, that it was one classy and personal affair thanks to the beautiful people who attended, the encouragement they spoke/wrote, and the hugs that they shared.

I am deeply thankful to Jenni, my friend and ministry counterpart, who gathered up bits of art and encouragement from students, created a gracious spirit in the Youth Centre, wrote and led a leaving liturgy, and honoured me in a thousand particular ways.

Here are some highlights:


My friend Sasha and I


Brother and sister: Selena and Travis.


Some of my not-so-little guys: Matty and Mitchell
Mitchell served with me as a SLUG this year (Student Leader Under Guidance)
Matthew has been a constant encouragement to me with his genuine heart and servant leadership


2 of my most consistent kids these last 2 years: Sam and Cheryl


A couple brothers I adore: Neil and Matthias

FYI: The Youth Centre really is this ugly.

Some arts offerings: Katie and Charlene wrote and read a poem
My friend Ryan sang me one of my FAV songs: Josh Ritter's Monster Ballads
I nearly fell on the floor weeping it was all so truly beautiful.

The Weight of Goodbye

The sun is setting
I am sitting
in my house tonight
with the light
what's better?
just an hour or so ago
it came (this light)
almost unannounced through
my north west facing window
it cupped my face
with it's most tender hands
it didn't say a word
it just
held
me
my face in the hands of
the sun
tonight I'm sitting with
(and distracting myself from)
the heaviness that has been getting up
in my personal space
all day
what's worse?
it has been here
for weeks
a lifetime of
weeks
it's the weight of goodbye
banging about in my head
aching up and down my heart
it rolls in so heavy
hides away behind the next hour
and then shows up and
overstays
its
welcome
tomorrow I will say so many
goodbyes and I know
around this world
so many people will be saying
so many
goodbyes
for
good
for
g
o
o
d
GOODBYES
we plead with you
we who live them with
intention and
(please) generosity
may you lend us
a sweet


hello.

It's Not Fair When We Don't Share

My friend Louanne is a wonder.

Some time ago she introduced me to the micro-financing organization Kiva. Straight from their website: Kiva's mission is to connect people through lending for the sake of alleviating poverty. Kiva is the world's first person-to-person micro-lending website, empowering individuals to lend directly to unique entrepreneurs in the developing world.

This past weekend I hung out with Louanne and her husband Paul a couple of times. On both occasions either one or the other was wearing a Kiva t-shirt. I was so inspired by their socially conscious clothing choices that I finally wandered over to kiva.org this afternoon and lent out my first chunk of money to a woman who makes cheese in Peru to support herself and her six children.

This was in the thank you email from Kiva: We believe this is one of the best ways to empower our neighbors, giving them opportunities to become economically independent, improve their standard of living, and alleviate poverty for themselves and their communities.

Yep. Sign me up for that. Wait. I just did.

Beauty Spots -- A New Blog

I had an idea for a new blog while I was traveling. I'm going to play around with it for a while. You can find it here.
Warning: it's grey, too. I love to wear black and blog in grey.

Trip Trickle:::THE GRAND FINALE

REWIND AND RETROSPECT

This trip for my 30th birthday came at an interesting time in my life.

Earlier in the year I had a dream to travel: I wanted to go somewhere with someone. That was it. I seized an occasion to go with a friend (the lovely Sara) while her sister was living in Berlin (the lovely Wendy). We sketched out an itinerary, booked our flights, and then hardly planned a thing.

Just weeks before leaving some massive change landed in my life. I was stuck in some tensions at my church and after much consideration, decided to bow out of the ministry there. Though some people could see the hope that might come after this tough spell, I was, and still feel, quite caught up in the sadness.

These were the bombs and flares exploding as I was about to walk onto a plane and walk off into a European adventure.

“Good timing,” some would say.

“Good timing?” I wondered.

I’m still thinking about that.

I do know that I loved leaving. I loved disappearing. I loved being with my friend Sara. I loved meeting new friends. I loved hanging out with Wendy. I loved eating! I loved drinking. I loved looking. I loved gathering up stories. I loved strapping dorky headsets on at museums to learn everything. I loved how a place or some writing on the wall got under my skin. I loved tree lines and people on their bikes.

I got tired of the heavy narrative I was lugging around with me. I got tired of my broken body with it’s definite limits. I got tired of bringing the wrong luggage. But I don’t think I stayed tired. I think my imagination was refreshed. Who knows where that might lead?


Welcome to Berlin.


Water closet, Berlin.


My shoes in Wendy's window.


Quite an ass, Potsdam.


The Memorial for Murdered European Jews, Berlin.
Early one morning.


Charles Bridge, Prague.


Sara and I, Prague Castle.


Banksy, London.
Leaving our mark.

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Music is this Josh Ritter song. Breathe that in.

A certain highlight of my trip was going out one evening to a pub in Crouch End, London, all by my little Bobbi self. I went to hear Jill Barber, a Canadian singer songwriter, who was in town. The evening nearly blew my CBC tshirt off. I met Jill before the show, she invited me to come hang out with her and her people, she put me on her guest list, I met some lovely London blokes who told me about pockets of urban poverty and how different London is from the rest of England. I dig that stuff, all that beautiful stuff.


Jill Barber, Les Cooper her guitarist, and me

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THE SHOES








There is something
about seeing
your very own feet
wrapped up in
your very own shoes
that reminds you that
you have place
that place matters
that you and place
are friends.

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THE FOOD AND DRINK

I love to eat and drink at home; I love to eat and drink away from home. Here are some of those moments from my trip.


Sara, Wendy, and I caught up in a Mayday "riot" in Berlin.


Breakfast in Berlin at an outdoor cafe.


Ron Telesky "couch potato" pizza covered in arugula (maybe) and chili maple syrup.


Sara and I joining the masses of Berlin with a scoop of gelato.


Real German food at the really, really old pub by Wendy's place in Berlin.


Coffee! I might have had about 50 cappuccinos in my journey. *Note that the statues outside of the Franz Kafka museum in this Prague square are actually robots. You can text them a message and they'll pee that message into a map/pond the shape of a map of Czech.


Sara, Lisa, and I spent a few hours at this pub in Oxford. It is famous for being the haunt of the Inklings from 1939-1962.